Fixing the unfixable

Hundreds of fictions are dedicated to explore the idea of traveling back in time or living in an alternate universe. Countless people devote their energy on creating elaborate theories about multiple universes and bending time through quantum mechanics. What is behind...

Welcoming my inner emotional family

A while ago I started to acknowledge my negative emotions fully and let them stay into my inner den. I did not have any idea how they were going to spend their time there: I just let them be there and play around. I listen to what they say, but whether to follow their...

Back to the now

We say we cannot change our past, but can change our future. I would like to challenge this concept by flipping it around: We can change our past but cannot change our future.  We can change our past What is our “past”? It is the collection of our...

Requiem for inner step parents

When we encounter negative emotions, the first thing we try to do is to cut them off. Anger, sadness, envy, hatred, whatever brings us down (or up way too high) should be treated as our mental disease/cancer/bug and thus be removed swiftly. Nothing unusual is going...

Talking = Listening

When we communicate using our voice, we either listen or talk, taking turns hoping we are dancing gracefully with the person in front of us using our voice. In many cases, we (okay, I) prefer the latter: talk. If I continue talking unconsciously in a selfish mode, my...