My friend wrote that a mysterious law exists that governs how lucky or unlucky we can be. According to him, fortune prefers those who take risks and punishes those who live risk-free. That means to live as you wish is the best way to attract goodies in your life. Recklessness isn’t the objective, but is part of the deal. (Lady Luck must be an avid gambler.)

Something tells me it is true, although I have no theoretical basis to prove it. Being a risk-taker (compared to my traditional peers in Japan), do I just want to believe it is true? Yes, but it is more than that. Looking over all the “lucky” people I have encountered in my life, I know exactly zero person who played their life cards safely all along.

I thought about why, and this is the answer I have at this moment: We attract what we are.  (Though why we attract similar beings is beyond my current understanding.)

I believe what matters is not whether we want luck so strongly but whether we fundamentally believe luck is on our side. If we want luck too much that signals we do not have luck; if we act as if we are lucky that signals we already have luck.

If we tend to “protect” our life with security (money, career, spouse, kids, etc.) and thus look for our lucky numbers, the underlying attitude is that of fear, which can be translated as “I am not lucky or strong enough to survive on my own.” Luck might be what exists in our head all day long but it is subconsciously eliminated from our being (body).

On the contrary, if we move on with what is in our heart even though there are risks, the underlying attitude is that of trust, which can be translated as “I am lucky and strong enough to survive by forging my path.” We might not think of luck all the time, but trusting our luck is subconsciously embedded in our being.

They say the law of attraction is simple—if you act as if you already have that very thing you want, it will come to you sooner or later. While an entire pseudo-science industry is built upon that principle luring people who are looking for a quick way out, I also believe it works. If we want luck/spouse/money/whatever, start living as if we already are with it, so authentically that we do not even think about that any more.

When we lament we aren’t attracting happiness or a perfect partner despite wanting them so much, the answer is simple: It is because we already aren’t happy or aren’t a perfect partner. Yes, it is that simple—yet how can it be so difficult? 🙂

According to my experience, what I truly need appears magically in front of me when I am no longer obsessed by it. It might not be what I envisioned in the obsessive mode, but it surely works for me.

Let’s just roll the dice and live our life.

P.S. Another reason on why being risk-averse can turn into risk-prone: From what I have observed (and experienced), people whose primary objective was to avoid risks usually had even bigger risks knocking on their doors one day in the form of bankruptcy, illness, depression, divorce, etc. The truly cruel part of their demise wasn’t in the accidents themselves but in their helplessness. They couldn’t deal with the unexpected guest in their life because they had supposedly eradicated those mega-risks from their life, with due diligence of a scientist fighting against polio virus, along with the vaccine. They frequently ended up wrecking their life far worse than necessary, dragging the unfortunate incident as a shadow that accompanied them everywhere afterward.

P.P.S. Note to myself: We form a group of like-minded friends. We attract mates with whom we can share our life paths. You might say “No, it doesn’t apply to my crazy ex-xxxx.” You think it goes without saying which the crazy one was, you or him(her). IMO, that question is fundamentally misleading: it is not “you or him/her.” It is “you and him/her.” It always takes two crazies to form one crazy relationship. You were as out of your mind as your lunatic ex, and in that sense, you were equals, a matching couple.